Blended Mothers. It’s this part of motherhood that probably most of us never envisioned when we were little girls. Being a mother seemed so traditional in every aspect. You meet the man of your dreams, you get married and you have kids. This is what I figured motherhood would like like until 5 years ago when Life had a different plan!
Being a blended mother has been the most rewarding experience. As I was thrusted in to motherhood in my late twenties I started with conversations about tampons, algebra and why boys are “stupid”. There were no diapers, there were no sleepless nights. It was packing lunches, “is your homework done”, and coordinating after school activities or tutoring. And while my kids know that I’m not much for words, they know I will advocate for them time and time again. I’ve had a lot of time to reflect about being a blended mother and while I know I’ll never fill the role of “biological” mom to my oldest two, I know if I continue being a constant presence, and role model of what having a successful career and healthy relationship looks like to them, the rest really doesn’t matter.
Eighteen months ago Life again decided it was going to continue with changing up the plans! While I had always wanted a child of my own, there were times when we thought that might not be the case. And as a woman, not being able to have a child of your own can be very challenging. Having gone through years of not knowing and speaking out about it more, I’m finding that many of us have and are experiencing the same issues. And still, today, I am realizing that many women are in distress and figuring it all out.
Now, Life is all about (still) “is your homework done”, packing lunches, but we have morphed in to diapers, sleepless nights and are evolving into a beautifully blended family. We don’t get caught up on titles or “step” this or that. We are a family. Being a blended mother with three kids is continuing to be a rewarding experience. We are all finding our place and roles. Life will continue to change and we will continue to role with it every step of the way!
Here is what Mama Ph.D had to say about Motherhood. Oh how I can relate!
And if you’re still looking for the perfect card to send your mom, why not go over to Strong Families and send a Mama’s Day Card
And a special note to MY mom (who might be the only person who reads this blog) – you are the most wonderful mom a grown-up kid could ask for. You are the most caring, selfless, thrifty-girl I know! I can only hope that one day I will be 1/2 the mom you are and am so glad that you are a part of my life and a part of my kids lives too! We miss you and move up here already…and bring dad too!
Mothers hold their children’s hand for a short while but their hearts forever – anonymous
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